On Manipulative Shitheads

I hate passive-aggressive, manipulative shitheads.

You know, the kind who project all of their weaknesses on their significant other, break them down, and suck the life out of them.

Then they call them a bully, dump them, and leave that person feeling like a black hole.

I dealt with that the entire weekend when a friend of mine came to visit.  Seeing how heartbroken and torn up she was on the inside just reminded me of my past relationships with abusive guys.

From experience, I’m going to have to say that it’s always a bit of fault on both ends when a relationship goes bad.  A few people I know try to shove all the blame on the other person… and others try to say it was all their fault.

It’s never one person’s fault.  Even in the abusive relationships I survived, I had something to do with all the crap that happened.  If I had been more willing to stand up for myself or had more confidence, then I never would have attracted those losers (or fallen for their bullshit) in the first place.  Certain aspects of my own personality brought out the worst in theirs, and vice-versa.  I made myself the victim, as much as I hate to admit it.

I’m doing better with that now, though I still have a lot to learn.  I stand up for myself, and I am beyond lucky and blessed to have found a man who isn’t a manipulative shithead, even if he is a bit more on the aggressive side.

But that doesn’t help in my friend’s case, and right now I kind of want to run her last boyfriend over while speeding in a Hummer.

Anyone have one I can borrow for the week?

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5 Responses to “On Manipulative Shitheads”

  1. mia Says:
    November 2nd, 2009 at 4:52 pm

    One of my teachers has one. I have the week off, so maybe she’ll let me borrow it just for that purpose. Where does the dickhead live?

  2. Tamra Says:
    November 2nd, 2009 at 7:32 pm

    Oh, I like you, Mia.

  3. Kathryn-the-Great Says:
    November 2nd, 2009 at 9:53 pm

    Let’s do it!! Estrogen Express out for blood! I know first hand that dating these loser, assholes sucks, but typically we learn from it. We can see where things went wrong and what we aren’t willing to put up with ever again… it’s a hard earned lesson that makes us stronger in the end :)

  4. Anon Says:
    November 3rd, 2009 at 6:34 am

    Hey, I want to ride along on with this posse! (I have a lot of experience dealing with manipulative shitheads.)

  5. Mia Says:
    November 3rd, 2009 at 10:52 am

    Tam, Kath and I have all helped each other through these manipulative shitheads. Hummer Estrogen Express would be fun. Anon, you’re welcome along for the ride! The more the merrier!