Are Moms Sexy? Like, For Real?
I always come back to this question.
After being with my husband for nearly a decade and surviving the birth of two kids, major postpartum depression, and a plethora of rough times, it never ceases to boggle my mind when James gawks at me like a horny teenager as I’m changing into my pajamas. Or when my guy friends tell me I look smokin’ hot when I show up to a dance venue wearing just a touch of mascara and a tight pair of jeans.
Like, holy cow. Do they have ANY CLUE what my body and mind have been through? I’ve been blown up like a fat tick twice and hollered like an Amazon Jungle cat while watching a gooey, squished alien emerge from my loins like a scene out of the worst horror flick imaginable. I’ve got stretch marks on my breasts and hips and thighs and a few (I know, I know, invisible ones) on my belly. Three different kinds of prolapse. Scars on my va-jay-jay from ripping in half, surgery, and ruptured glands. Part of where I tore the first time was so severed it never even healed back. And my “happiness” is contingent upon a hefty dose of anti-crazy pills.
And yet, somehow, they still find me sexy. And somehow, despite all I’ve been through- or maybe because I’ve been through it- I feel five times sexier now than I did before I had kids. Not always, but frequently.
Amazing how that works.
So I’m curious, what do you think? Ladies? Gentlemen? Don’t be shy! Are moms sexy, like, for real?
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November 13th, 2009 at 3:04 pm
Ummm, my mom is 44, and has 2 kids over 18, and she’s still referred to (by my friends even) as a MILF! LOL!
November 13th, 2009 at 3:39 pm
Moms are, in general, more mature and I think mature women are more confident with themselves, which makes them sexier.
I can vouch for the fact that you are waaaay sexier now than before having kids. Pregnancy, child birth, and finally PPD forced you to literally make a choice between death or facing your worst insecurities and issues.
You chose to face them head on by seeking help and starting this blog. This year, I’ve watched you take control of your life and reach new levels of acceptance of yourself. That courage and the resulting confidence is incredibly sexy.
Yes, you have a great body (regardless of having kids or not), but the inner confidence you have now is very new. Plus there are so many other things about you that people love and find attractive. Compassion for others, openness about yourself, acceptance of different ideas and beliefs, great sense of humor…It was all there before, but it was hidden by the depression. Now it’s out there for everyone to enjoy.
I love you! :-*
November 13th, 2009 at 5:18 pm
Tamra – I love your husband…because he loves you so very much! When I read your his responses to your blogs, especially this one, it helps me to see how much my own husband loves me. For some reason, he still finds me sexy (and I’ve got so much more on me than when we met) and I don’t know if it will ever make sense to me. But reading what your husband had to say in response to your blog makes me “get it” a little bit!
And, yes, I do think moms can be sexy. I agree that a lot of it is probably maturity and confidence but when you add a hot body like yours, you’ve got the entire package!
November 14th, 2009 at 1:38 am
What James said. Plus, sexy is so much more about attitude than physique. Some people can have so-called “perfect” bodies and not really be sexy. And other people – warts, lumps and all – are the sexiest of all. You know a lot about me and I attract men of all different ages – and I’m fine with that. The more you like yourself, the sexier you are. Keep on going the way you are – you just keep getting better.
November 14th, 2009 at 12:24 pm
Yeah… I think the whole “moms are generally more mature, and with maturity comes confidence” thing rings very true in a lot of cases. Certainly, the older I become, the more confident I feel with who I am on the inside… and I know for a fact that plays a positive role in the idea of “sexiness”.
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