Sexually Frustrated Catholics
Usually, I am pretty open-minded about things. But THIS just angers me to the point that if someone ever dared to preach this kind of shit to me again, I’d be inclined to rip off my pants and show them my cha-cha piercing JUST TO SPITE THEM.
Fuckers.
Controlling and putting tons of rules and regulations upon something beautiful and natural that God *most likely* intended animals to enjoy is what makes our society (including myself) obsessed with sex and all things sex-like.
Yes, I am angry.
Current Mood:
Angry
Tags: Catholicism, Sex
December 3rd, 2009 at 12:19 pm
Oh my goodness that is just crazy!
December 3rd, 2009 at 12:37 pm
I know, right? The thing that KILLS me about it is that I followed that *religiously* for a better chunk of my marriage. I believed it.
And it angers me because I feel so stupid for thinking it was Truth. It’s not. Just bullshit. And so many other people have been brainwashed into believing it.
December 3rd, 2009 at 1:19 pm
Yeah sorry, but God had no part in making those rules. Only humans are capable of that level of ridiculousness.
I think my favorite part is the tagline for the site: “Where Doctrine Becomes Practical.” Right.
Although this whole thing would be a lot funnier if these beliefs weren’t pushed on us starting from when we were young. I’m not bitter or anything…
December 3rd, 2009 at 2:49 pm
OMG!! LMAO “…so long as it leads to normal sex.” Seriously, get a life and keep your nose out of my bedroom. End of story.
December 3rd, 2009 at 4:46 pm
Wow! I had no idea there were so many rules!
December 3rd, 2009 at 7:23 pm
what a croc o’ crap. I agree with Kathryn the Great!! Wonder what the Catholic Letter has to say Q/A wise about priests molesting little boys.
December 4th, 2009 at 8:49 am
Wow. When reading the intro, I was like, “Well, this makes sense. Frank answers to potentially embarrassing questions. Sex is fun Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.” But then, from the get-go, the answers are ridiculous. I had no idea there were so many rules in Catholicism regarding sex between a husband and wife. And talk about pressure: if a man doesn’t ejaculate, he’s sinning? I mean, I thought that sort pressure to perform kind of hindered things…..
December 4th, 2009 at 9:00 am
Wow, just wow, that’s pretty funny. I agree with Kath…get the hell outta my bedroom, I’ll do what I want!
December 4th, 2009 at 9:41 am
EmilyH- I wasn’t super aware of all the rules, either, until I had to take classes to get married in the Catholic church. At the time, James and I had been abstinent for a year (due to guilt, we’d stopped having sex… we were together for 4 years before we married), and we’d already agreed to follow the Catholic teachings.
Well, it was quite the eye-opener when we were told that with faith, sex this way would be incredible, selfless, and “fully giving one another to each other”. It was supposed to “promote love and understanding” between the married couple. In fact, it did exactly the opposite. It almost ruined our marriage because it made us bitter and turned sex into a horrible chore. We were taught that sex was for procreation and to promote unity between a man and his wife… what it did for us is push us away from the church and each other.
I get so angry because something deep down inside of me fears that what I was taught IS what God intends, but my logical side knows it’s complete bullshit. Furthermore, I can’t stop looking into it because for some stupid reason, I keep hoping that I’ll find a line, a Bible verse, SOMETHING, that will be like, “ha ha, just kidding…” in the Catholic doctrine. I know I’ll never find it, but I just keep looking anyway.
December 4th, 2009 at 11:28 am
I also love how you’re supposed to turn to your priest for sexual advice. How can someone who’s supposedly never performed an act supposed to give advice on it. Funny how similar that is to my opinion on male OB/GYNs. You don’t have it, what are you doing advising on it?
December 4th, 2009 at 12:06 pm
Mia- so freaking true.
December 4th, 2009 at 7:51 pm
I feel ya. I grew up very Catholic and now I am proud to say, I am a born again ex Catholic lol! I think the reason why there are so many priests committing terribly heinous acts is because they have something to hide behind in this repressed environment where sex is made dirty. People are in the perfect environment not to talk, they are the perfect victims for these sickos who find refuge in this community of misinformed people. I hate the horrible shame it has instilled in me since birth and I still feel guilty and think I am going to hell for like pretty much EVERYTHING! Its the very acts of human nature that were created by God, whichever life-force you believe is your god, sex included, that are being made to be wrong and evil by the church. Shame on them! It is a man-made twisting of the true teachings of Jesus. Jesus was a man who lived and didn’t teach any of that crap they cram down your throat in the bible. He was married, probably had children and so did his mother. MISINFORMED! Ignorance breeds poor, mindless followers who will donate their life savings to you and let you molest their offspring, gross!
December 5th, 2009 at 9:32 am
@Mia, haha. That totally reminds of something my mother told me once. She has five kids and was a military wife, so everyone was born someplace different, and in the military, you get whatever doctor they give you. Well, she had had four male OBs for the first four kids, and when she was pregnant with me, she was assigned a female doctor, so she got really excited. But then she found out this doctor had never had any kids and she was like, “You’re just as bad as a man!” haha
December 8th, 2009 at 6:01 am
I’m going to have an interesting time having kids in the military. I will actually probably end up footing the bill for a midwife, no matter what they say. The good thing is now, they do give you the option of a female doc. Even out at the VA, they have a Woman’s Clinic that is actually ran by women. The military has come a long way, but I have the feeling that when it comes to natural child birth, it still has a way to go.
December 8th, 2009 at 11:29 am
You might consider the fact that the author (that would be me) is not pointing out rules. This is how sex is understood in the Catholic religion. Most of them are not specifically spelled out anywhere–which is why it is posted. But the questions are often asked very specifically. I would not have posted it if these weren’t common questions.
Of course, to each his own. But the site is about Catholics and for Catholics. No one is pushing this on anyone here. It’s odd that anyone would be so angry about it.
December 8th, 2009 at 12:25 pm
Eric… let me explain a little further. I was by NO MEANS picking at you as the author. What you stated is completely correct as far as what the Catechism of the Catholic Church states in regards to sex. My apologizes that you felt I was personally attacking you as that was not my intent.
My anger is not toward what you wrote, but towards the Catholic beliefs in regards to sex. The reason for my frustration and anger is a direct result of growing up Catholic, being a hard-core practicing one my entire life, and following the Church’s teaching on sex… all of which ultimately has taught me that enjoying sex is dirty, wrong, and something that causes me guilt even as a married woman. I have spent much time in therapy trying to learn to appreciate sexuality as a positive part of life, and unfortunately have discovered that the Catholic beliefs instilled to my very core are what cause all my anguish. Pardon me for feeling angry, but I can’t help the way I feel.
December 9th, 2009 at 10:10 am
No hard feelings. I hope you find the path to joy, comfort, and God along that subject.
I had seen the traffic coming from this page and thought I would pop in and clarify. Often married couples want to ‘follow the rules’, even though the black line isn’t always spelled out in the ‘rulebook.’ People want to know specifically what is and isn’t allowed. Because they ask the questions this way, the answers sound like micro-management of a personal subject. But couples really do want to know, “Where exactly do we draw the line?” So I had formed the line as well as I was able, even though some of it is subjective.
Good luck to you.
Erice:>