A Poll And Discussion: Orgasms
Friday, February 5th, 2010By popular request, we’re gonna talk about hitting the big O today. And I’m gonna share yet again WAY TOO MUCH INFO with you all because brutal honesty on taboo topics (like my penis size blog last week) seems to make for the best discussions on here.
First, the poll:
Loading ...And now the other questions: What does it take for you to orgasm? A number of women said last week that they can’t or usually don’t orgasm during the act of sex itself… can you? If so, does it only work in certain positions? Do you need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, or can you hit the big O even without it?
Okay… so now for my answers. You ready for ‘em? *blushing*
Orgasming for me has never been difficult until I had to start taking antidepressants. And actually, it wasn’t until I was at the highest dose that I needed to take that I really noticed them affecting me in that way. Since then my dosage has been decreased by a whopping 5 mg, which isn’t a lot but still very much affects me in the bedroom in a good way, thank goodness. I can orgasm during sex, oral, masturbation, whatever, without too much of a hitch. HOWEVER, there’s a major caveat to this: I can rarely orgasm unless I’ve had nipple stimulation as well.
Yes, weird, I know. For some people it’s the clit, but my hot buttons are my nipples. For real. I have orgasmed off of nipple stimulation alone. Add just a little of that to sex, and I melt in a matter of seconds.
Without the nipple stimulation, I can sometimes orgasm, but I either need to be: A) just really freaking horny at the time; or B) I need to have a lot a lot of imagination happening to get me there in addition to direct clitoral stimulation. What kind of imagination, you ask? Seriously, I don’t know if I’m ready to talk about that. I’ve got some fucked up abuse in my history, and I’m rather ashamed about some of the things that I find a turn-on. Don’t worry, I’m sure one of these days I’ll go there… but I need to talk to a sex therapist first.
As for sex positions, although I’m a big fan of doggie-style, I can only orgasm that way if I’ve got the help of a vibrator. The best positions for me to hit the O are either being on top or having my hubby on top. Again, that direct clitoral stimulation is a must.
Okay, I just completely opened up about one of the most taboo topics I can think of… now it’s your turn! Don’t be shy! And if you’re a guy, by all means… you’re welcome to chime in as well.
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